It's always good to hear from another side of the adoption story. Today's Stay Acquainted Meeting in Saratoga gave me the opportunity to hear from 3 birthmothers and one birthfather about their stories. It reminded me that although every story is unique, there are some similarities. The day an adoptive parent leaves the hospital with their new baby, full of elation and joy, is a day of grief and sadness as the birthmother leaves without her baby. I will do my best to keep that perspective when that day happens for me.
Today we heard from 3 courageous women who placed their babies through Friends in Adoption. Their stories brought laughter and tears. The relationships they have with their children's adoptive families makes me hopeful for my future. It was good to hear that their level of contact has evolved over time. One didn't want to meet the adoptive parents at all (and wanted a closed adoption). She now has a relationship with them where she sees her daughter a few times a month. From the outside, this looks so healthy to everyone involved - the child, the birthmother (or birthparents), and the adoptive parents. Is it too much to hope that someday I will be able to cultivate such a wonderful relationship?
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